Blanket Apology

[ros]

BLANKET APOLOGY

First, I am still looking for a bus although after inspection, I fully expect to buy the bus in Tennessee.  Before that inspection, one cheaper and better may still come along.

I am as tired of posting as you are of reading.

Lately, the confluence of lots of pressures and gotten to me, they are:

My eviction - they call everyday.
My truck having blown.  Heck, I can't even go get groceries.  I am working on that.
The continued search for a bus and research thereof.
The fact that a few members took my own words without understanding them and attacked me with them and got away with it.
Finally, the very egregious fact that I just had too much of the good wine and acted a complete fool.

Nothing can undo how I acted, as we all know.  However, I take some solace that I am able to apologize rather than run and hide.


Ros

[Hobie]

Hang in there.  You will be renewed when you find that right bus !

[luvrbus]

LOL glad I don't drink wine

[ros]

Hi, Hobie,

Thanks for your post, it means a lot.

What scares me  is what will I become if it isn't the right bus.   

Ros

Hang in there.  You will be renewed when you find that right bus !

[ros]

Hi, Clifford,

Thanks for your post, too.

This isn't the first time nor the last what I will show my xxx, unfortunately.
What is left of it, that is.


Ros

LOL glad I don't drink wine

[bobofthenorth]

Its takes a big man to apologise.  As one who has had occasion to offer many apologies I should know.

I'm no psychiatrist but it sounds like you are under a lot of stress Ros.  When we are extremely stressed we often make bad decisions.  Be careful what you get yourself into.  You've pinned a lot of hope on this yet to be found bus.  Those of us who own or have owned them know that they don't solve anything, they generally just create a whole new mess of trouble.

[ros]

Hi, Bob,

Your words are comforting and dead on about the stress.

The good wine, unfortunately doesn't cure problems either, it just creates more, as we all know.

Getting a bus will not cure all of my problems but it will take one heck of a lot of the immediate stress off of me and I can concentrate on the new problems of a bus, if not too insurmountable.

Thanks.

Ros

Its takes a big man to apologise.  As one who has had occasion to offer many apologies I should know.

I'm no psychiatrist but it sounds like you are under a lot of stress Ros.  When we are extremely stressed we often make bad decisions.  Be careful what you get yourself into.  You've pinned a lot of hope on this yet to be found bus.  Those of us who own or have owned them know that they don't solve anything, they generally just create a whole new mess of trouble.

[bevans6]

It's apparently a male thing to offer solutions to problems, and a female thing to offer support and commiseration while not offering to solve the problem for the problemee.  So we, as mostly if not all males, tend to offer specific and detailed advice as solutions to problems, and naturally, being male, we are invested in the complete correctness of our solution to the detriment of all others.  So we tend to defend our position even in the presence of evidence that other solutions exist, that may even be better than ours... (nah, not possible...    ).  Lets us focus on the bus questions, help with technical issues, and leave the evictions, blown up trucks and ham radio equipment to the side for now.  I don't have a clue what the solutions to those problems are, although I wouldn't doubt that if I had to I could take a swing at them, but I do know a little about buses and one or two other things not germane to Ros' problems at all (unless he has an urgent need to tig weld some aluminium, or set up a formula race car, or maybe drive from Nova Scotia to Ontario and stop at the off-ramps with the best truck stops and restaurants...

I'm 100% convinced that buying a bus is a mistake.  The burning question is - is it the best mistake, or the worst mistake, or somewhere in the middle?  If life gives you lemons, make lemonade - but what if life didn't happen to give you any sugar?  That lemonade is going to suck, big time.  So I made the mistake and bought the bus, I'm still here and kicking.  I don't have any reason not to think that Ros will buy a bus (big mistake) and turn it into the best, sweetest lemonade ever.  Maybe it's exactly what he needs at this point, and getting the least objectionable one is exactly the right thing to do.  Bonne chance, bon courage, drink the good wine first.  but don't post after the wine...   

Brian

[ros]

Hi, Brian.

WHAT A HECK OF A POST!  I like it.

Your use of similes and metaphors are entertaining and interesting.

I appreciate yours and everyone's candor.  That shows that you really try to steer the newbie in the right direction.  However, in this newbie's case, he is going to go full steam ahead with buying a bus because it appears, to me, that is truly the lesser of two evils.  If (there's that word, again) I can just get 'the' bus into an rv yard, I will take sometime off, do nothing and recuperate.
I may even have more of the 'good wine' but hide my keyboard first.  A vôtre santé

Luckily for me, life did, after all did give me some 'sugar'; I have a given talent for being resourceful and it has come to my aid many times.  I am sure that I am going to have to conjure up that spirit very soon!

Thanks for the post, Brian.

Ros

It's apparently a male thing to offer solutions to problems, and a female thing to offer support and commiseration while not offering to solve the problem for the problemee.  So we, as mostly if not all males, tend to offer specific and detailed advice as solutions to problems, and naturally, being male, we are invested in the complete correctness of our solution to the detriment of all others.  So we tend to defend our position even in the presence of evidence that other solutions exist, that may even be better than ours... (nah, not possible...    ).  Lets us focus on the bus questions, help with technical issues, and leave the evictions, blown up trucks and ham radio equipment to the side for now.  I don't have a clue what the solutions to those problems are, although I wouldn't doubt that if I had to I could take a swing at them, but I do know a little about buses and one or two other things not germane to Ros' problems at all (unless he has an urgent need to tig weld some aluminium, or set up a formula race car, or maybe drive from Nova Scotia to Ontario and stop at the off-ramps with the best truck stops and restaurants...

I'm 100% convinced that buying a bus is a mistake.  The burning question is - is it the best mistake, or the worst mistake, or somewhere in the middle?  If life gives you lemons, make lemonade - but what if life didn't happen to give you any sugar?  That lemonade is going to suck, big time.  So I made the mistake and bought the bus, I'm still here and kicking.  I don't have any reason not to think that Ros will buy a bus (big mistake) and turn it into the best, sweetest lemonade ever.  Maybe it's exactly what he needs at this point, and getting the least objectionable one is exactly the right thing to do.  Bonne chance, bon courage, drink the good wine first.  but don't post after the wine...   

Brian

[John316]

Ros,

I am on the band wagon that doesn't think a bus is a good idea. However, considering you are set on it, I hope you find the perfect one! Like I said before, if you find one in the Kansas City area, that you need looked at, I will do that for you.

Of course, me being me, I went to try to find the thread that was getting interesting. I was travelling the last few days, so after I posted my popcorn gif (which I love doing) I didn't come back and check. Wishing I would have. Oh well.

I hope it all works out well for you.

John

[Charles in SC]

Have you considered paying your rent? This will give you a clear conscious and more time to look for the right bus. I do not know the Texas laws but I do know the South Carolina laws a little bit. If you were renting here and stiffed your landlord they can take you to small claims court to collect the money plus expenses.

[eagle19952]

where do you get that he stiffed the landlord....

cheese and crackers people...the guy has asked you to share your expertise on buses....
he never asked to hear your opinions regarding his sanity or decision making abilitynor his psychological welfare or any other of your personal opinions about what you assume to be his character...smh.

try this ... for example...imagine if you will that maybe his wife died, he's heart broken and has been drug through the medical bankruptcy mill...

that he knows all of your thoughts and he's tired of listening to the same crap report.

if you can help with what he asks...then do it.
if you can't or don't want to...then don't....

Acccept his apology or don't... but why keep piling on ? .... I don't get it.

I know as well as I sit here there are plenty who have survived their bus decisions...and Ros will too.

I also know that there are some whose budgets were smaller and some whose were 100 x's greater...so what, Run what you got...that's what it's all about.

Y'all say whatever you got you can park it next to me.... I'm not feelin it...
In reality... I can think of at least a half dozen who should be apologizing to Ros...and I'm proud to say I'm not one of them...

[luvrbus]

Maybe ROS needs to make a offer on SCC's bus he has for sale he would lighten up whata you think  this needs to stop there is no reason for that comment

[Iceni John]

Ros,

The fact that you've been posting here and not on the Skoolie forum (that I also read) indicates that you are thinking about buying a "real" bus, as opposed to a school bus.   The reality is that your dollars will go MUCH further if you buy a skoolie this time, then upgrade to something else later if/when your situation improves.   For maybe $1500 you can get a sound school bus and use it as a tin tent, slowly converting it as you live in it.   If you really want to see how thrifty ingenuity can produce a liveable bus for not much money, peruse the Skoolie forum -  some folk there are converting a whole bus for what I've spent so far just for nuts & bolts and plumbing fittings!

Two other options  -  a cheap, well-used RV (but that would probably be just plain nasty), or a van or box truck that can make a good stealth camper.   These days, lots of tradesmen's white vans, complete with company names and even ladders on the roof, are not what they seem from the outside!  

Just an idea.
John

[eagle19952]

I give up.... uncle...